Gen X. Gen Y. Gen Porn.

The sad state of affairs is that we truly are raising boys in Generation Pornography. From the grocery store checkout aisle to wifi devices, porn is anywhere and everywhere.

Consider:

  • In 2000, the average age of first exposure to pornography for boys used to be 11 years old. In 2010, it dropped to 7 or 8. (Focus on the Family, The Economist)
  • Pornography in the home was the number one topic in over 12,000 recent calls for help. (Focus on the Family)

The simple statistical truth is that if your boy is ten years old, he’s almost certainly already seen porn. I’ve spoken to thousands of men at conferences and retreats over the last four years. The record for the latest first time exposure to pornography is thirteen years old. But the stories I hear today tell me that the true average age is closer to seven or eight. Access to porn is everywhere – Xbox Live, iPods, phones, computers – and our culture has never been more sexually explicit in music, TV, and movies.

In the old days, boys found porn through their friends, neighbors or families’ stash of magazines somewhere. These days, they find it while innocently doing homework online.

And once a boy sees porn for the first time, he’ll never forget. Every man I’ve ever spoken with remembers the first time. It’s not like a bad dream that he will eventually forget. Walking with him in this will require your participation. Lecturing, yelling, scolding, or simply not talking about it will not help him process through the images that are now burned on his mind.

For many parents, this is an absolutely terrifying issue. Most of the moms and dads I speak with are far more comfortable talking with their kids about sex than about porn. And it’s  understandable. Where do you start? Where do you end? How do you figure out if they’ve seen it yet if you don’t know for sure? How do you avoid making them curious if they’ve avoided it somehow?

These are the questions and issues that we want to wrestle with at Unbound Ministries. So come join us for Talking with Your Son about Porn and start the conversation that could change his life forever.